For many of us, domestic violence is something we read or hear about, but we may not know anyone affected. Or do we? In her recent interview on Good Morning America, Rihanna talked about the shame and embarassment she felt for having a relationship with someone who would do this to her. In her case, her fame brought the incident to light when the police were called. But how often do these incidents take place and we don’t find out because a friend is too ashamed to reach out? And then I start to think, could this happen to my daughter?

When we see Rihanna in public, she comes across as a strong, confident young woman. Yet during the interview she admitted to having a hard time leaving the situation. When Diane Sawyer said that on average it takes a woman seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship, Rihanna responds, “eight or nine, actually”. Ultimately, it was her realization that as a public person, she also serves as a role model for young girls. She admonishes young girls not to stay in a dangerous situation for love. “F— love.” I have not seen the rest of the interview, but I found this portion interesting.

October was Domestic Violence Awareness Month, but we should be aware at all times. If you see someone who looks like she may be in trouble, don’t assume it’s none of your business. She may be too ashamed to reach out. We would want someone to help our sister, our daughter, our friend. And Rihanna, thank you for speaking out.